Archive | March 2013

IT IS FINISHED!


ItIsFinishedTBToday, for Christians around the world, is a solemn, sacred day. It’s not about theologians determining the exact historical day that it came to pass, but rather, it’s about what today commemorates. Today we hold vigil for the greatest travesty and most sorrowful of days in our faith practice – Good Friday. The day that Jesus wore the crown of thorns, bore the ridicule and scorns, suffered the beatings, and ultimately was crucified.

I cannot imagine the terror that was in his heart as he faced his sentence and walked the long and painful path to his ultimate sacrifice. As a mother I cannot bear to think of the horror that Mary felt as she watched her son, the pure and loving man, writhe in agony as he was hanging on that cross.

But I also recognize that it was the day that Jesus uttered the mightiest 3 words ever spoken – IT IS FINISHED!

For those of us who recognize the power of those 3 words, it is the most sacred of all spoken. It is in those 3 words that the world shifted from needing salvation, to having a Savior. Those words completed the sacred purpose for Jesus’ walk upon the earth. And today, with grateful tears, I remember the passion of The Christ. I pray with gratitude that He paid the price I cannot pay. And I know, if I was the only human on this earth, that he would have done it just for me. And likewise … he would have done it just for you! That is the humbling reality to the perfect love of God.

Here’s a song from my childhood that still bring me to tears as I remember the greatest of all sacrifices: 

Know that you are loved and be blessed!

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I have nothing to say …


nothing-to-sayI was saddened yesterday by a casual exchange. I wasn’t sad for me, mind you, but for a “reality” that one of my friends was claiming for herself.

You see, I was chatting with an old friend – catching up and enjoying each other’s company. The subject turned to hobbies and I mentioned my blogging here. While I don’t get to write every day I do come back here as often as I can to read, write, and stir a little positive into the pot of life. Her response to this is what made me sad.

She said, “Oh I could never do that, I have nothing to say.”

Wow. Upon further conversation, I found she actually believed just that.  I’ve heard lot’s of responses – I don’t have time, I’m not a good writer, I don’t like sharing on the internet, etc. All understandable and reasonable. But for someone to live their life, this precious experience on earth, and to truly believe they have “nothing to say”, well it saddens me. I have no expectations that everyone should want to blog or write articles or books or become public speakers. Nor do I expect people to scream their truth upon the mountain top or into the world wide web. But there is something for her to say … to friends, family, loved ones. There is wisdom in her living that is best  utilized in its sharing.

The truth is – I would love to hear anything she has to say. She has deep faith, she has admirable accomplishments, she has experiences in business and in community volunteering. She has children she’s raised and ideas she’s brought to fruition. But what she doesn’t have is confidence. She lacks the understanding that SHE has importance and what SHE says is of interest. But I know that her big and small things have value in their telling. Stories are important – it’s how we communicate values, feelings, progress, ideas, and changes in relationships and so much more. She has SO MUCH to say but she doesn’t put value on it. There lies the root problem that has caused my sadness. This beautiful human being who is loved by many doesn’t see her value and therefore feels she has nothing to say that has value.

silenceOne of my basic tenets of belief, in life and in my experience in the field of Human Resources, is that everyone has a voice and should be encouraged to find it. I will continue to encourage my friend to find and value hers.

Do you know others who believe they have “nothing to say?” How do you encourage them to find their voice?  Hand them the pen, the microphone, the telephone, or simply lend them an ear …. and be blessed!

Kindness Inspires Kindness – It’s coming!


KIK logo 8-13-13I simply can’t wait! I’m like a child at Christmas that suddenly hears the jingle of Santa’s bells or the hoofs upon the rooftop. The excitement is intoxicating!

What am I anxiously waiting for, you ask? Well, it’s my 50th Birthday KINDNESS INSPIRES KINDNESS Day!

What started all this was a simple inspiration that jumped to me via my dear friend Anita. She had read a blog that inspired her. See how this is going? Here’s the link to Making Life Whimsical. Amy from MLW had blogged about her 40th birthday and celebrating with a KINDNESS INSPIRES KINDNESS Day. As Anita was reading Amy’s blog she said “I can do that.” And as soon as she shared the idea with me I knew I would do this too. I had been pondering what I could do to make my 50th special. The best way I can think of to make my day special is to make it meaningful. I can use that day to help change the world in small ways here in my community. I try to spread kindness every day and this will be a concentrated day full of gift giving – from me, not to me!

Anita’s good news is that she had a KINDNESS INSPIRES KINDNESS day last week. Here’s a link to Anita’s blog about her day. I’m so blown away by the positive outcome she had. My excitement is growing even more!!

Now the plans are coming together for me. I have my list of kindnesses almost complete. I’ll be meeting with my friend Barb H. to create a plan and a schedule to make it possible. I’ll be calling on friends, family, fans, and my peeps of all sorts to join me in planning, gathering donations, and hoofing it around Cincinnati spreading our kindness gifts. I’ll be taking pictures and blogging here as the plans come together and as the day materializes.

I invite you to join in too. Either on my birthday (Aug 13, 2013) or on yours, do an act of kindness that makes your heart sing and makes your soul celebrate. Then take some pictures and sent me a note describing it. I’ll share your kindnesses on my blog as well.

My desires are big but very doable. I want to make my KINDNESS INSPIRES KINDNESS day a huge success. I want to light the eyes and brighten the smiles of many, many people. And I want to inspire more acts, gifts, and day that are even grander than mine. Are you in?

Tell me what you plan to do …. and be blessed!

I Am Now Me – original poem


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I AM NOW ME

I have opened my heart, my soul in order to peer into the deep.

Below the surface, behind the smile, hiding deep inside was hurt and fear.

No conscious part of myself today was aware of that tiny, dark secret skipping around out of view.

Living each day by walking in faith I moved forward.

But lurking inside was a tiny child holding hands with a deep seeded pain.

Unable to let go, she was frozen in time.

Not knowing what would happen or who would lead the way.

And then it changed.

By peering into the dark, the howl and cry of the brokenhearted child began to seep upward toward consciousness.

There was no holding it in.

There was no stuffing the secret back into Pandora’s box.

And so it flowed, with tears and with wailing, into the universe and into the light.

With a scream of acknowledgement it suddenly lost power.

That strong, deep, still fear was revealed for what it was.

It was simply the desperate cry of the child within.

Wanting and longing for the adult on the outside to love and nurture the child on the inside.

And today they meet.

With hesitation and yet with a hint of joy.

She who was with she who is.

Always being the same and yet, not quite ready to join energy and force … until now.

There is a communion of memory with soul and a sudden understanding of the real connection.

It had always been there, untapped and unfamiliar.

The loneliness had now a partner.

The child had now a protector.

The lovable essence and soul had now a name.

I am whole in my own self.

I love in the world today with a full understanding of what was and what is.

I see my separateness.

I am now separate from the cold, unfeeling hand of the past that could never give me what I needed.

I am now, ME.

~ Barbara Bernard Miller

Comments for a Cause for March – Cancer Family Care


Have you discovered more about Mesothelioma?  Thanks to Heather Von St. James and her blog I certainly have and am honored to be able to share my February “Comments for a Cause” donation to help. If you’d like to donate as well, here’s a link to allow you to do so easily here online:  www.curemeso.org

CFC_logotagMarch Cause:  Cancer Family Care in Cincinnati, OH

I recently met with my dear friend Mar who is a counselor at Cancer Family Care here in Cincinnati. We met up in her office – I had never been there before and I could feel such energy, compassion, and hope just by entering the space there. While I am blessed to be living a cancer free life, I know there are countless people in my life who have or are suffering right now. I know and love some who are survivors and others who lost the battle and I see the absolute devastation this disease can bring. Knowing that this great organization is helping family members to live and thrive and survive is such a great cause. I’m excited to add them as my “Comments for a Cause” organization for March.

So please share this page with your friends and family and encourage them all to leave a comment anywhere on any post. I will count their comments towards my March donation to Cancer Family Care.

Thanks and be blessed!!