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A lesson in trust


Today I learned a lesson in trust. Not because someone broke my trust but because they didn’t. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in my fears. When I look at new situations with the suspicions of the past I have done a disservice to both myself and the person I’m dealing with. They can neither know our pains nor anticipate our buttons.

And what I learned today is that while holding onto my own fear and my own self preservation I didn’t see theirs. I didn’t recognize the signs of their pain. I didn’t  know they had the same lesson in their life. Patience, compassion, and the willingness to take a risk allowed us both to share and see the other side. It wasn’t  easy but it was worth it. And I was able to move from fear to freedom. As the Bible says, “the truth shall set you free.”

I have come a long way in learning lessons from my past. So I choose to acknowledge that and pick up with a new possibility. I choose to look at the future as bright, not as bleak. I choose to leave the person who hurt me behind in exchange for a new slate with someone else. I’m glad I had the lesson today. I’m glad I spoke out and I’m glad I pushed myself to be open. In the end, the lesson I learned in the past has opened me up to the sweetness of trust in my today.

Be open. Be trusting. And be blessed!

I cry and pray


I am disappointed time and time again when I see so-called members of my Christian faith behaving in ways that would make Christ cringe and cry. Yes, I read the Bible. Yes, I go to church. But I do not espouse to believe some of the degrading and unloving things that I hear come out of the mouths of people who are both leaders and followers in the Christian community at large. At the end of the day, the parts of the Bible that come from the teachings of Christ is what was the foundation of Christianity as a new belief and a new religion. And some days you would never know it by the things we see and hear in the news or in our smaller communities.

To read how Jesus preached compassion, understanding, salvation, forgiveness, faith, hope, and all things related to unconditional love makes my heart and soul breathe in a mighty Allelujah! And inspires my mouth to shout Glory to God! It is that positive message that has survived in spite of 2000 years of persecution, misconduct, wars, and many other atrocities. And it is that original loving message that is the guiding principles for my beliefs and my actions.

But to see self-proclaimed Christians live and preach hate, division, judgement, unforgiveness, and all things related to intolerance makes me want to deny the title just in order to be in no way associated with them. Those thoughts, philosophies, and words are a blight upon the believing community. I do not know how preaching the opposite of the man we follow can possible bring souls closer to God or glorify his Divinity. And for that my heart weeps. In spite of what wisdom they think they are preaching these unloving people are forgetting a very powerful statement:

Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 7:21

I pray for those who speak and live a misguided and unloving life. And I pray even harder that true, loving Christians speak and live loudly enough and well enough to drown the others out. May the true Christians stand together in love.

Believe, live, and be blessed!

Spirit of Compassion, Hands of Service


According to Webster, Compassion: sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress, together with a desire to alleviate it.

This past week has been full of stories of destruction, devastation, death, and displacement due to the multiple tornadoes that ripped through our area on March 2. And the news that FEMA has declined assistance for those in our state who have lost everything has sat heavily on my heart. I am blessed that my family and I were left unscathed. My immediate circle of friends are safe but stories of their family and friends are starting to reach me. There are those who lost loved ones and others who lost both home and work. There are those who are being put out of what little they have left and have nowhere to go. My heart is heavy with  the thought of their despair.

I know that our town and region are just the latest in a long serious of disasters. Whether your area has been affected by tornadoes, hurricanes, tsunamis, earthquakes, or any other disaster, I reach out to you in prayer and with a heart of compassion.

Let us turn compassion into action and action into victory. There are ways we can help. We have excess we can share. We have hands for service and time to provide it. Let us take care of those in need, for indeed, someday it may be us.

Reach out and be blessed!

The whole enchilada


We have a concept in our company called “bringing your whole self to work”. With all the diversity and inclusion work that we do, that is our ideal goal. We do a lot to make our culture such that this is a reality and not just an empty slogan. The intent is that each person feels they can bring their individual passions, talents, skills, personality, and strengths to the workplace. And we are valued for who we are and how we see the world as a way to make our products better and our consumers more delighted. I love that concept and have been thinking about whether it is true for me. Here are the facets of myself that I do bring to work:

> Integrity/Moral Compass – I do not need to abandon what I believe in when I do my work and interact with people. This isn’t about religion but rather trust, honesty, respect, doing what’s right, etc.  This is so important – I would need to leave if this were not the truth for me.

> Passion for personality types – understanding what makes people “tick” and how they work together has been a long-standing passion and interest of mine. Being in HR and working with organization design and team dynamics is exactly what I need to be doing for this passion to come to work with me.

> Creativity – not just in problem solving, but also in creating a fun and energizing place to work definitely comes in with me. I especially love to bring this part of myself to “play” in my job. It’s much more about how I think and work rather than just what I’m working on.

> Compassion – is especially alive when I work with employee relations issues. I balance compassion for the person with doing the right thing for the Company. Being a principle-based company vs. rule-based makes this a lot easier for me to do.

> Spontaneity – while the workplace has much rigor in it, there are always opportunities for me to take initiative and be spontaneous within my own projects. For the most part, I’m the driver of my timing and schedule, which leaves room for my spontaneous side to thrive within the box.

> Leader – being in “middle management” brings opportunities to lead projects, as well as people. There’s a wealth of A-type personalities in my company so being a leader is important. I don’t just drive the strategies and priorities, but also influence the players. Leadership is an easy part of myself to bring and use at work.

> Humor – there’s nothing more fundamental to human beings than to smile and laugh. Luckily, I work with a group of folks who have just as much of a wacky sense of humor as I do. We get a big laugh quite frequently, which makes the hard work go down just a bit easier.

There are so many aspects of who I am and some do not translate into the workplace. That’s okay, because the ones that do relate all seem to be coming with me. I don’t feel like I’m abandoning “who I am” in order to do what I do. I know this makes me fortunate. I am grateful for the blessing.

What about you – do you bring your whole self to work? Are there some aspects of your personality, talents, or strengths that you leave at home because they are not valued? I challenge you to see if there is something you can do about that.

In the meantime, be whole, and be blessed!

Joy


“I am thrilled to realize in spite of the world’s trajedies, heartaches & conflict, there lives and thrives in this world a great joy. It is love of God, self, neighbor, creature & earth. It is the passion in us that keeps us striving for good. And the compassion inside of us that helps us continue to lend a hand to those in need. It is God inside of us working to change what is not God-like. We are blessed!” ~ Barbara Bernard Miller