Just do “You” better than anything else. Yes, that may seem like a strange and random sentence but it’s really not. So often we choose who we will be and what we will do minute-by-minute based on the prying eyes of others. Real or imagined we decide there will be judgments made and we hesitate. In our eagerness to belong or to be seen favorably we abandon our instincts and do what others want. Or we assume we have to justify our choices and well, it’s just easier to do what is expected. I’m guilty of this occasionally but not very often. Age and maturity have helped me with this. But I see it a lot when I step back and observe others.
I saw this come to life last night even in the program American Idol (yes, I like to hear the people sing!). One contestant was swayed by his mentors to change his song choice. They “knew” exactly what he should do and why. At no time did they seem to consider why he had picked the song he did. They just steered him toward what they wanted. And he sang their choice. He said he practiced and practiced and got “okay with it.” He did just fine but there wasn’t a spark in his spirit or passion in his words. He sure didn’t seem like the same person we’ve seen week after week on this journey. He just sang it. And the judges and audience could see it. I felt a bit sorry for him because he wanted to do the right thing inside this awesome opportunity. He wasn’t being himself and it didn’t serve him.
Then a couple of singers later there was the same thing – the mentors had tried to dissuade one contestant from singing her song choice. They had her listen to a whole host of other options. But in the end she stuck with her gut. She wound up singing a song that none of the judges even recognized but she nailed it. Her conviction and her passion shone through. She had the audience rocking and singing with her. She was being herself and she showed it to the world. The tenor and reactions from all in the room were completely different for this singer.
Are you singing someone else’s song choice? Do you have a nagging feeling inside of you that something just seems off? Are you distracted by the “glittery, sparkly, delightful” allure of another choice? Do not hesitate. Stand firm and go for what YOU choose. In the end, those around you may not make the same choice but they will be able to see and feel that you are being the best YOU there is.
It isn’t often that we find ourselves in a place of true reflection. A time of looking thoughtfully at the truths of our life. The times you did it right and those you regret to call your own. But those are the times that actually shift a life from being a routine and ordinary ticking of minutes and hours into a thoughtful and deliberate choice of change.
Most days are filled with stuff – time to take care of the job, the spouse, the kids, the animals, the bills and obligations. We float into year after year of the sameness because we didn’t stop to examine the moments of shift and opportunity. Did we even notice?
I believe that we are all coming upon a time when we cannot afford the daily drudge. It will catch up to us and we will find ourselves facing the solitary, reflective moments out of necessity, if we had not already done it by choice.
Perhaps today is the best day to slow down. Slow your breath and your steps. Sit quietly or lay still and see the movie of your life float past you. But this time notice which paths you chose and which you didn’t. Examine the cause and effects of those decisions that brought you joy and those that left you agonizing over the error of your ways.
I say these things only because I observe my own reluctance to stop and peer into the progression of my life. It’s as if the knowing will make me choose something different. Not the entire scope of my choices but some which no longer serve me. And that feels uncomfortable. Have I kept my promises to myself? Have I lived to my potential? Have I been meaningful and relevant? Have I been kind and loving? Have I been authentic?
I send you an invitation only. To take a purposeful few moments to be still. To be deliberate. To be choiceful and to amend the things that you no longer choose. Cling to those that still resonate with your spirit and know that in loving yourself enough to do this, you create a shift known only to you perhaps, but one that realigns your nature and your soul.
There are days that come where we all seem to just wander around unable to define who we are and what we are here to do. Have you ever noticed that people tend to drift during times of “in between crisis” and “in between celebrations”? Why is it that our lives are all about circumstances dictating our moods or our thoughts or our actions? Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Shouldn’t it be that passion and commitment and decision drive our attitudes and actions?
I’m learning about this concept and trying to put into motion the changes based on what I choose. If life is about choices then that should include the choice of action, reaction, emotion, and mood. Yep … still learning. Yep … still practicing.
I do notice that the times when my life seems to be really rocking along in a good and powerful way I feel that I am in charge. I don’t feel swept away by emotion in those moments. I feel like I am the cause of those emotions. I don’t feel like I’m drifting but rather that I’m driving.
So, today, as the weather is gloomy and full of “liquid sunshine” I choose to continue to deliberate with myself about my level of control over what I think and what I feel. I choose to leave the drifting feeling on the sideline and get into the game of life again.
Today is a great day! My book, MIGHTY INSPIRATION, Love Letters from God is now published and released!
A year ago when I started to hear God’s words stir in my heart I never imagined that I could actually write a book or that the book would be published. I had heard and felt God in my life before and it always provided peace or challenge for me in the moment. But this was different! Way different! God’s words were so strong inside of me that I had to capture them in writing. He led me on a journey of self discovering and broadening my vision for my purpose on this earth. And he challenged me to help others find their purpose and their gifts for this world. We are all here to make choices – big and small choices that will move the world to a better place. God has a message for all of us. See what he said to me.