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T.H.I.N.K.ing …


At work, and on my FB author page, I love to share quotes. I like to find snippets of wisdom from all corners of the world and spread them around in the hopes that on that day, it is meaningful to others in the same way that it touched me. The quote I chose at work today is:

“Before you speak … T.H.I.N.K.

T ~ is it True?

H ~ is it Helpful?

I ~ is it Inspiring?

N ~ is it Necessary?

K ~ is it Kind?”

I learned a long time ago that just because you want to offer feedback or say something doesn’t make it the right thing, even in the workplace (or is that especially in the workplace?). Even if you’re the boss. If feedback isn’t timely or actionable it’s probably more destructive than it is anything else.

Sometimes we have to say the difficult things because we want to be in service of another person – truly giving them some information that may be a blind spot or may be unknown to them that they need to know to be successful. But many times, we say what’s on our mind without editing it for value. Here’s a few I’ve heard recently that, frankly, left the receiver more self-conscious and bewildered about what to do about it (especially when they were followed up with a laugh or “just kidding” – everyone knows they weren’t kidding.) It was equally uncomfortable to watch:

> “Wow, your accent makes me laugh because I can’t understand you.”

> “When you’re nervous you have a strange tick you do with your fingers and it’s annoying.”

> “Gosh, did you notice everyone snicker when you shared that one piece of data in the meeting today?”

Those are just a few. In the moment, the awkwardness hung in the air like a noxious gas. And of course, the person speaking followed up with a lame statement to cover up the error. And the receiver graciously said, “ok, thanks.” But the damage was done.

I’ve done it. I’m familiar with that embarrassing moment when I realize I just spoke without T.H.I.N.K.ing.  And I’m sure, if I examine my life a little closer, I probably need more editing. I’m sure that’s why I noticed the quote today. In case it speaks to you as well … T.H.I.N.K. with me. And be blessed!

Who Do You Inspire?


In my work as a Human Resources Manager for a large corporation I tend to meet alot of people. A whole lot. When I add in the work I do as a Myers-Briggs certified trainer, I meet a bunch more. Every once in a while I meet someone who absolutely, hands-down inspires me. It’s electric and enchanting when it happens!

I’ve been thinking about what it is that touches me so much about these people and I think I finally figured it out – because they are all about making the lives of others better. Simple isn’t it. They don’t even do it in big, grand or sweeping ways – they do it in everyday life. They are easy to talk to. They are genuine in their concern for those that don’t even usually have a voice in the matter. They are humble and kind. They aren’t donating wings of hospitals. (Don’t get me wrong – that’s pretty spectacular!) But the people that truly inspire me are the ones that make me happy to be me and happy to know them. Which is pretty much the basis for love – love grows when we are happy to be ourselves with someone else.

Simple … simple … simple.

I wonder, just wonder, if I am ever the person who inspires another. Do I measure myself against the right success criteria? Do I make them happy to be who they are when they are with me? Am I self-aware enough to notice?

If you want to see someone who I think is inspiring by venturing to spread smiles, peace and happiness in these difficult and worrisome times – check out Paul Wesselman and his uRock campaign. And then, check out this video on youTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7EYAUazLI9k.

Enjoy!