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I had an interesting conversation with my daughter this weekend. We were talking about times in my life when I could “feel” that I was exactly where I was destined to be. I know we are always on the exact right path but there are moments that with intense clarity I have been aware of “arriving” at a destination. It hasn’t happened a lot but it is such a cool moment of realization when it does. She’s not experienced this yet but then again, it didn’t happen for me until my 30’s either. Here’s a few examples:

> The first time I recognized it was an evening a couple of days after I moved back to Cincinnati and was in our new house. I felt drawn in the middle of the night to go downstairs. I lay fully awake but totally at rest on the couch. The moonlight was streaming in the window. I looked around the room and something shifted in my consciousness. With complete confidence I knew that this was the house I was meant to raise my children in. The other homes were lovely, and right in the moment, but this was the “destination.” I felt so much comfort in that moment.

>Then there was the time I found the antique buffet for my dining room. It seems kind of silly or strange that I got that strong sensation about a possession of furniture. But I knew the moment I saw it that it was the piece I had been looking for over the last 5 years. It “spoke” to me and I knew it was coming home with me, even though I had to wait about a month to get it. Everything that didn’t fit in my much bigger china cabinet just settled into place in this piece. It almost felt like I had owned it before. It looked and felt familiar to me in a strange and deep way. If you don’t believe in past lives that’s not possible. If you do …. well maybe I did.

> And I felt it when I saw my dog Gracie. I had thought about a dog for a little while but then it was if there was a calling on me that was urging me to look for a dog that month. I had decided on a couple of breeds. And then, out of the blue, and very much out of the ordinary, there was an ad on the bulletin board at work for a pure breed Bichon Frise. That was my #1 pick in breeds.  Those are expensive dogs and you almost always have to get one from a breeder but I was not prepared to spend top dollar if I could adopt a dog that was going to lose its home. There she was – for just a couple hundred dollars, including cage, bed, toys, food, carrier and all the other stuff a dog could need. I prayed on my way over that if this was the right dog that it would come over to me. Well I got there and saw her as I pulled up. I heard the bells go off. And as I went into the living room to talk to the owner and sat down Gracie jumped into my lap and didn’t move until it was time to leave. Yep – she was my dog and she went home with me that day. I still see it in her eyes when I look at her.

I know some folks will say, oh yeah, that kind of thing happens all the time. And instincts and intuition do happen often for me. But that slow motion clarity of “knowing” and of “arriving” isn’t all that frequent. Well, at least not for me, even in my heightened intuitive states.

What about you – do you have great intuition? Do you follow it? Do you have any “slow motion moments of intense clarity?” I’d love to hear your stories.

Be blessed!

Just do “You”

Just do “You” better than anything else. Yes, that may seem like a strange and random sentence but it’s really not. So often we choose who we will be and what we will do minute-by-minute based on the prying eyes of others. Real or imagined we decide there will be judgments made and we hesitate. In our eagerness to belong or to be seen favorably we abandon our instincts and do what others want. Or we assume we have to justify our choices and well, it’s just easier to do what is expected.  I’m guilty of this occasionally but not very often. Age and maturity have helped me with this. But I see it a lot when I step back and observe others.

I saw this come to life last night even in the program American Idol (yes, I like to hear the people sing!). One contestant was swayed by his mentors to change his song choice. They “knew” exactly what he should do and why. At no time did they seem to consider why he had picked the song he did. They just steered him toward what they wanted. And he sang their choice. He said he practiced and practiced and got “okay with it.” He did just fine but there wasn’t a spark in his spirit or passion in his words. He sure didn’t seem like the same person we’ve seen week after week on this journey. He just sang it. And the judges and audience could see it. I felt a bit sorry for him because he wanted to do the right thing inside this awesome opportunity. He wasn’t being himself and it didn’t serve him.

Then a couple of singers later there was the same thing – the mentors had tried to dissuade one contestant from singing her song choice. They had her listen to a whole host of other options. But in the end she stuck with her gut. She wound up singing a song that none of the judges even recognized but she nailed it. Her conviction and her passion shone through. She had the audience rocking and singing with her. She was being herself and she showed it to the world. The tenor and reactions from all in the room were completely different for this singer.

Are you singing someone else’s song choice? Do you have a nagging feeling inside of you that something just seems off? Are you distracted by the “glittery, sparkly, delightful” allure of another choice? Do not hesitate. Stand firm and go for what YOU choose. In the end, those around you may not make the same choice but they will be able to see and feel that you are being the best YOU there is.

Be you and be blessed!