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Do you have a happiness setpoint?


I read some information today on a coaching website I’m a member of that really shifted my thinking. So often it seems people have a happiness set-point. You know what I mean – they have predictable patterns of happiness throughout their life…  Here’s a few examples:

panic1) The “Down & Out” crowd – Life’s troubles seem to follow them around no matter where they go. One crisis is overcome or averted and the next one is right around the corner. They live their lives in constant panic and stir up panic and drama for others as well. You might describe these folks as the ones being led around by the tail. They aren’t in control of their circumstances and don’t appear to be in control of their happiness.

grumpy2) The “Bah-humbugs” – These folks are hard to please, rarely smile, and life appears to be a bit of a nuisance. The glass is almost always half-empty or down-right bone dry.  These folks tend to have a pessimistic viewpoint on life and definitely bring people around them down. Complaining is their favorite thing to do. They scowl, and really don’t enjoy being around anyone or anything that seems to bring out much joy.

download (1)3) The Middle-of-the-Roaders – Lots of folks find themselves in this place – not much excites them or truly upsets them. Oh sure, they have the big moments – a wedding or a birth that is happy but their emotions don’t seem to match or if they do, it’s kind of brief . Nothing seems to be terribly noteworthy. Life is full of routine. Even their celebrations are routine. Problems are mostly manageable and life is flat, as is their energy level.

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4) The Ping-Pongers – Whew, this crowd can wear you out from bouncing around to every emotion – really high to really low. I’m not talking about the clinically bipolar – these are folks that just seem to be whipped around by extremes. Wow their enthusiasm is contagious when life is good. But the lows can bounce them around at whiplash speed. Their energy is highly unpredictable and it might be hard to keep up with which kind of day it’s going to be. Heck, it might be 5 different kinds of day all wrapped into one. As a matter of fact, their happiness set-point appears to be stuck on spinning.

happy5) The Happy-Go-Lucky – These folks seem to have figured out how to be happy most of the time. They tend to be optimistic, seeking the silver lining whenever possible. It’s not that life doesn’t have it’s challenges, they just have found a way to stay happy in spite of it all. They find something to be joyful about in every day. They can draw you in and it just feels good to be around them.

Did you see yourself in any of these descriptions? While you might find you aren’t exactly like any of them 100% of the time, there definitely seems to be trends in life. It shows up in our outlooks, demeanor, and energy. It appears that perhaps people really do have a happiness set-point, like a magnet it pulls them back time and time again to the same spot.

BUT … what if it’s only how you think about the concept of happiness. If a person no longer thinks about happiness as a destination – it’s not the place you’ll end up, but it’s the mode of transportation no matter where you go. It can be a choice in attitude. What if you considered … are you WILLING to be happy consistently? It would take a bit of pondering to look at your habits, your beliefs – both those that serve and those that limit. What if happiness isn’t what happens to your life, but who you are as you are living your life. Isn’t life way more fun when we choose how to live it?

What if  …

Consider who you are being on this happy trail of life. Be happy, and be blessed!

Following a dream …


follow-your-dreamsI have been following a dream lately and find that it is in the following that blessings begin to appear.

I have in times past, given into moments of doubt when I listen to the fearful chatter in my mind about not being right, not being knowledgeable enough, not being worthy. Those days and those old dreams became a burden and it got me nothing but more questions. That path was a muddled mess.

I learned, when I wrote my book MIGHTY INSPIRATION, Love Letters from God that the promptings in our hearts are not directives, but glorious invitations. By stepping into the possibilities true inspiration turns into connections which turns into success.

And so this new dream has become a welcoming into new possibilities. I am finding support on the left and the right. I am finding my steps guided by instinct and intuition, as well as connection and happy, serendipitous timing.

Do you have a dream, that twinkling possibility of success, or blessing that is stirring inside of you? What if the mere fact that it is stirring is the sign you need that it will be a success? What if your dream is the exact thing that will bring about someone else’s dream. We are all so interconnected that the success and failure of one is part of the domino affect that leads to the success or failure of another.

Oh, I know, there is someone out in the etherworld who needs to hear this: Step out! Go for it! Inquire and take a risk. It is in our action that we tell God and the angels which path we want to be on. The universe is uniquely designed to support our actions.

Today … do one thing that is in line with your dream and tomorrow the next thing will reveal itself.

Join me and be blessed!

Big Plans!


“Make no little plans. They have no magic to stir the blood.

Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid.”

I received this quote from a friend of mine before she left my department (thanks Maureen – I still treasure it). It had hung in her cubicle and every time I saw it, it gave me pause. It is a great reminder that we are not created to be small – we are created to be big, powerful, and full of possibilities. Since then I keep seeing versions of it – reminding me of how important it is to remain aware. And … haunting, or is that taunting, me a bit.

It gives me pause because I’m not sure my plans are big enough. My dreams are … but not my plans. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routines of work, kids, pets, yard, cleaning, family, friends, obligations, and celebrations. And after all that activity I find myself drifting off to at the end of the day feeling like I’m no further down the road than I was the day before.

So I’m taking some time off work to use up a bit of vacation next week. No plans to travel. No big events. Just me (and fluffy puppy). I think I’ll use this time off to work on my plans. Surely I can do some big brainstorming. I’ll be planning, plotting, scheming … but if that doesn’t work, I guess I’ll be doing my taxes. Wish me luck!

What are your big plans? Perhaps they will rub off on me and I will get inspired!

Be blessed!

What If – original poem


                                   WHAT IF …

To consider the vast possibilities

          in a sea of unknown moments is

                    a noble act of great courage.

Speak and the unprotected thought is exposed.

         Move and the vulnerability of risk rises.

                    Create and the naked soul is revealed.

Hesitation wastes a precious moment of life

          and leaves nothing to soothe the searching

                   flight of spirit in motion.

And the thoughts keep flowing with

          no knowledge of the end game’s results

                    or the assurance of success.

I am propelled forward out of desire for that which is

           better and kinder and most fulfilling.

I create the future of my life and my world

          on the power of  “what if”.

                                         ~ Barbara Bernard Miller

Possibilities of Spring


There is something about spring that makes me want to plant things.  I can’t explain it as I am not one for gardening or tending the yard at any other time of year.  I usually think nature is a wonderous thing as long as I just have to “look” at it.  But transformational seasons of Fall (my favorite) and Spring are just, well … different.  Spring’s air still has a crisp feel to it when the wind gets wipping up.  I love that because it brings the sent of lilacs rushing at me.  The tiny leaves and buds and flowering trees give me a sense of hope and wonder.  One would think I would have outgrown such emotions as I’m not a “spring chicken” contemplating the world.  But I am definitely a spring fan!

So, I sit and swing; plot and plan; shop and dig and bask in the possibilities of Spring.

Be blessed!