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I have nothing to say …


nothing-to-sayI was saddened yesterday by a casual exchange. I wasn’t sad for me, mind you, but for a “reality” that one of my friends was claiming for herself.

You see, I was chatting with an old friend – catching up and enjoying each other’s company. The subject turned to hobbies and I mentioned my blogging here. While I don’t get to write every day I do come back here as often as I can to read, write, and stir a little positive into the pot of life. Her response to this is what made me sad.

She said, “Oh I could never do that, I have nothing to say.”

Wow. Upon further conversation, I found she actually believed just that.  I’ve heard lot’s of responses – I don’t have time, I’m not a good writer, I don’t like sharing on the internet, etc. All understandable and reasonable. But for someone to live their life, this precious experience on earth, and to truly believe they have “nothing to say”, well it saddens me. I have no expectations that everyone should want to blog or write articles or books or become public speakers. Nor do I expect people to scream their truth upon the mountain top or into the world wide web. But there is something for her to say … to friends, family, loved ones. There is wisdom in her living that is best  utilized in its sharing.

The truth is – I would love to hear anything she has to say. She has deep faith, she has admirable accomplishments, she has experiences in business and in community volunteering. She has children she’s raised and ideas she’s brought to fruition. But what she doesn’t have is confidence. She lacks the understanding that SHE has importance and what SHE says is of interest. But I know that her big and small things have value in their telling. Stories are important – it’s how we communicate values, feelings, progress, ideas, and changes in relationships and so much more. She has SO MUCH to say but she doesn’t put value on it. There lies the root problem that has caused my sadness. This beautiful human being who is loved by many doesn’t see her value and therefore feels she has nothing to say that has value.

silenceOne of my basic tenets of belief, in life and in my experience in the field of Human Resources, is that everyone has a voice and should be encouraged to find it. I will continue to encourage my friend to find and value hers.

Do you know others who believe they have “nothing to say?” How do you encourage them to find their voice?  Hand them the pen, the microphone, the telephone, or simply lend them an ear …. and be blessed!

Let us grow …


“What you grow in the good times becomes your strength in the hard times.

Therefore, let us grow and let us share love, peace, charity, forgiveness, generosity, and hope.”

~ Barbara Bernard Miller

I posted this quote on my bulletin board at work today. There are so many people who are seeing the hard times coming or already swirling around their lives right now. I wanted to remind us all that we have some control over our situation. Perhaps not in what happens but certainly in what we put in our lives to prepare us to react to and cope with those situations.

And when I stand in good times and others do not, I hope I am conscious enough, aware enough, and courageous enough to step out of my joy to lend them a hand, a shoulder, a word of encouragement, or even a dollar or two – whatever I have that can ease the trouble. It’s so easy to forget sometimes that we aren’t alone, especially in the tough times. But the worst thing we can do is forget that we aren’t alone in the good times. That is when we can really make a difference.

Be a light in the world, and be blessed!

Valentine Revelation


“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”

~ Robert Heinlein

Today is Valentine’s Day, as everyone with any proximity to Hallmark knows. It is full of hearts, flowers, candies, and sentiments of love. I think we forget that the original Valentine was not a message to a romantic lover at all, but rather a message of love to those who were praying for the imprisoned St. Valentine.

Today I woke up not knowing how I should feel about this Valentine’s day. Had I remained married, this would have been my 25th anniversary. And yet, I feel no sadness about that, just acknowledgement. And the loves of my life, my children, are both out-of-town today. I love you Tony & Maria! But I do not feel lonely because of that either. I am not feeling the “down” emotions that I thought I might today. I woke feeling loved.

I had purchased some packets of yummy Ghirardelli chocolates so that I would have a sweet treat today. On my drive into work I stopped to pick up breakfast. As I was sitting in my car waiting to pull up to the drive through window to pay, I got inspired to share a chocolate with the ladies in the window. Wow – what a huge smile they both had when I handed them the cherished bit of chocolate and wished them a happy day. In that moment I realized that all the love I need on Valentine’s day is the love I spread around. With that, my mission for the day was clear – I would be the person who greeted everyone I see with a Happy Valentine’s Day smile and a chocolate. My heart is renewed and I have already seen the spark come back into the eyes of those I’ve met today. I don’t know if they are alone and I’m the only one who will give a love filled greeting to them. I don’t know if they are missing a loved one who has passed or gone far away. I just know that my encounter with them was a brief but genuine greeting of love.

So for today, everyone I see is my Valentine! To those who read this message – Happy Valentine’s Day to you! May you spread the love and be blessed!

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,

that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

Shhhhhh … it’s a secret!


I LOVE surprises!

I know not everyone does but I feel like a giddy child when I’m in the process of planning one. My senses are on heightened alert for any chance to be found out. I smile … alot, and sometimes spontaneously let out a giggle just knowing that someone I love is going to receive just the perfect something. When it’s a really good one I have to cover my mouth to keep from blurting the delicious details.

I love the thrill of the hunt best of all. As an avid bargain shopper it’s even a colossally bigger joy if I find what I’m looking for on sale. Sometimes I linger in this exciting phase for months, just crawling out of my skin for the secret keeping. Oh, how I savor the covert planning! And as with all self-respecting extroverts with a secret surprise, I always have to find a friend or family member with whom I can conspire. It’s fun to whisper, pass winks and knowing glances, sometimes right in front of the surprisee when they don’t even recognize it. It’s a rich and heady thing, this keeping of secrets.

And right now … I HAVE A SURPRISE!  I just might burst for having to wait to deliver it, but wait I must. If you hear a random giggle or snort, yep it just might be me. teehee!