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Living Technicolor in a Black and White World


I’ve been in several conversations lately with people who tell me their world is black and white. Things are either good or bad. It’s all or nothing. A life of extremes or at least in my eyes, extreme decisions. Am I really that odd living in my shades of gray? Well, actually my world is technicolor.

Don’t get me wrong, there are a few things from a moral perspective that I believe are absolutely wrong. But those are but a handful. The rest belongs on a sliding scale that stretches from okay for someone else to good to better to best – for me. There’s room in my world for other opinions and I live and let live. I know my personality type allows for change and possibility and it makes life more delicious. To me, too many rules don’t make things better, but gives rise to more rebellion and judgments.

And the black and white world seems to be pervasive beyond just how people behave. It’s everywhere and here’s what it looks like:

> Things are new or trash. Wow that’s too bad. I’m not a hoarder but I find it fun to give something new life or a creative second purpose. I even know people who will never live in a previously owned home. It’s new homes only for them.

> There’s a right and a wrong way to do everything. Can you believe I’ve even been told there is a “right way” to make an ice cream sundae when you make them at home. Come on folks, really? I assure you it tastes good even if it doesn’t look like the pictures. And I wonder – is there really joy in that rigid approach to life? Lighten up a bit and put the cherries on the bottom once in a while!

> Everything is “mine” or “yours”. The black and white world is territorial too. I’ve gone to a church, being new to a town before and actually been chastised because I sat in someone’s pew and they NEVER change pews, or heaven forbid, they couldn’t sit 3 spots down. Really?? Pretty sure God can see you over there too, even in your non-welcoming, self-righteousness.

> Modern and trendy is the only way to go. Even in decorating the world I see seems black and white. So many people only accept the newest and trendiest. If it isn’t the newest, most modern design they won’t accept it. They miss out on the story and beauty of objects that were lovingly made and used over time. The character and workmanship across the ages lends texture and interest to me.

Sometimes I wonder if this black and white living is an American phenomenon. I know I’m not alone but my technicolor eyes seem a be a tad out-of-place sometimes. I like to see the shimmer and pizzazz of a life that has variety. And I love my world of colors. It’s juicier, sweeter, full of delightful sights, smells, tastes, textures, experiences and yumminess.

Tell me – what’s it like in your world and be blessed!

Kiss of Serendipity


SERENDIPITY. I love this word and all that it means and represents. A happy accident. A sweet turn of events. A perfect surprise of circumstance. The word itself ~ serendipity ~ rolls sweetly off the tongue.  It’s not a word we use much, but so often it is a word that simply and perfectly comes to life. I think I shall put this word more prominently into my vocabulary. I like the rhythm and the magic of it.

For the movie lover, Serendipity is a great romantic comedy starring John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale. The star-crossed lovers meet for a brief encounter in an accidental shopping exchange. They are intrigued by the chemistry and attraction but choose to leave their relationship to fate. They spend years searching for each other. When it appears that all is lost and they resign themselves to a life without each other, serendipity swoops in and brings them back together. It is both a love story and a holiday story. In my house, that’s the perfect combination.

For the sweets lover – it is a wonderful restaurant/ice cream establishment in NYC. Serendipity 3 is featured in the movie and filled from top to bottom with kitsch and colorful chatzky. The lines are long because of its popularity, but the treats are divine and the atmosphere cozy. In my view, it’s worth the wait if you want to linger and experience a sweet treat. (Note, the frozen hot chocolate is a favorite.) It is also famous for a different and extravagant menu item. If you are quite rich and so inclined, you can order the most expensive ice cream sundae anywhere – including edible gold. It’s so rare you have to call ahead so they can bring in the ingredients to make it up special. 

For the believer, serendipity is so much more. For some it is the hand of God, or to others, the fates of the universe coming to bring what is right and good into their life – at the perfect time, for the perfect need or desire. Things fall beautifully, rightfully, almost miraculously into place. Do you recognize serendipity in your life? I have seen it upon occasion. Once in the chance meeting on a business trip that turned into a new, long distance friendship. I’ve recognized it in the eyes of those who receive a random act of kindness. I’ve lived it when my brother found me through a string of serendipitous miracles after being separated for 25 years. I see it in the perfect outcome of an unidentified and unspoken prayer.

Whatever you believe. Whatever your heart is desiring. Whatever your unspoken need – I wish you the kiss of SERENDIPITY.